"The Black Moment" is a phrase that is used a lot in romances. This is the scene where the conflict between the hero and heroine causes their budding romance to crash in a spectacular fashion. At that point it seems like the love they've been enjoying along the way can never overcome their issues and firmly-held beliefs, and the only solution is for them to walk away from each other, sad and hurting.
The whole book has been leading towards this particular moment, and even though the characters hope it won't get to this point, the readers are actually looking forward to it. It's not that readers are sadistic. They just want to know how the hero and heroine will get over their fears and let their love overcome the differences that should normally keep them apart.
This is a very essential step before they can get to the Happily Ever After ending—kind of like having to eat your Brussels sprouts before you get to have crème brulee.
I've always struggled with this particular aspect, and not just because I hate Brussels sprouts and love crème brulee. I really love my characters and I don't want them to suffer. I want them to be happy, and I would prefer it if they could just skip, hand in hand, to the marriage chapel, with a beautifully scrolled "The End" appearing over their joyful faces.
But to get to that point of unending bliss, the characters need to go through growing pains, and that pretty much includes well, PAIN. It's not called "growing fun".
And this is what The Black Moment is all about—growing and changing and maturing. As with most of us, characters won't volunteer to go through a change process that's guaranteed to be uncomfortable or painful. They'll only do it if there is a pretty darn good result waiting at the end of it (i.e., a great life with this person they love).
So what do the characters do when the person they love seems to be the person they should hate?
I mean, here's a man and here's a woman, two completely different people—physically, emotionally—in every way possible. They can manage to find an accommodation when it comes to physical love, because their bodies are designed to have an area of common ground, so to speak.
Now they just have to find this area of common ground emotionally, in order to get through this black moment. Each character has very firmly-held beliefs, and a particular worldview, that headbutts the beliefs and worldview of this person making them crazy with lust and love and longing.
I typically refer to this as "The Bleak Moment", because my characters aren't necessarily battling each other, they certainly don't hate each other, and they aren't filled with complete despair. So it's not so dark that it should be considered "black". But they are at an impasse. They can't go forward, and it's too late to go back.
Since they have been building to this point throughout the story, rushing through it would be like a premature. . .release. (Cue Peggy Lee's classic song about disappointment, "Is That All There Is?")
I recently re-read one of my manuscripts and I realized I'd rushed through this moment, all because I didn't want the characters to go through an extended period of anguish. But it was a letdown. For me. And I'm the one who wrote it. It felt like the characters just kind of threw their hands in the air and said, "Okay. Whatever. Where do you want to go for the honeymoon?"
I finally—FINALLY—understood why my characters need to suffer. They need to struggle, so they can feel good at making it through something impossibly difficult. It's the same exact way I feel when I make it through a revision that seems daunting. It's too hard, I say. I don't think I can do it. But somehow I do. And then it's not as hard as I first thought, because I'm thinking about it differently, considering diverse possibilities, looking at it with fresh eyes, and all of a sudden, I've finished it, I've made it through. And I feel fantabulous, like I've just won a marathon when at first I couldn't even get off the couch.
Our characters benefit in the same way. For example, I have a character that thinks, "I can't possibly let go of my belief that commitment is a trap that will make me want to gnaw off my arm." Their encounters with their love interest challenge that belief, and soon they are in a committed relationship AND both arms are intact, and they haven't once contemplated sharpening their incisors. Even more importantly, they've jettisoned their old belief system, through a lot of struggle and hard work. As much as we admired the characters before The Bleak Moment, we're lifelong fans AFTER they've gone through the effort to change for the better.
So now I'm a convert to the importance of The Bleak Moment. I may still struggle with it—which is what happens when you get rid of a firmly-held belief, after all. But now that I understand the payoff, I'm gonna be making my characters squirm.
Not only are they gonna love it, they're gonna thank me for it.