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May 16, 2011


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E.C. Smith

Cool way to look at conflict. Sometimes, it's the little things that trip us up, isn't it?

Donna Cummings

E.C., you're right about the little things. LOL They can be landmines sometimes! And then sometimes they can be fun little bits like this. :)

Terri Osburn

I can't think of any examples, but I like the way the author you're reading handled the situation. For some reason I'm thinking these are the "It's not what it looks like" moments. When he did sort of do what it looks like she thinks he did so he can't 100% deny he did it, and her anger won't let her listen to why it's not what it looks like. LOL!

Yeah, those I can follow. And though I can't think of one in a book, there was a moment like that in Burlesque, which I watched over the weekend.


Oh yeah, the eternal battles of communication...
But you said...!
But I meant...!
But that is wasn't I heard...!
But then you said this!
But that is because I thought you said that...!

So many leves to communication...it's amusing if you can step away from it long enough to handle the misconception of hurt...

I just finished Wild Ride by Crusie and Mayer where the heroine is told something by a seer...now this isn't exactly the same...and I'm not going to explain in case someone wants to read it. But I loved how it magically resolved in ... like the last lines of the book... Beautifully done!

Donna Cummings

Terri, I haven't finished this book yet, but I have to admit I like the way this was handled and set aside. I've read other books of hers and really liked them, so even though I'm still in the midst of this book, I don't have any fears that she'll disappoint me before I reach The End. :)

You're right about those "it's not what it looks like" moments. LOL People make a judgment based on the info they have, but if they had MORE info, or they weren't carrying around baggage that makes them interpret things one way--it would definitely change the way things look. :)

I wanted to see Burlesque. I'll have to add it to the Netflix queue now!

Donna Cummings

Maureen, I haven't read any of the Crusie/Mayer collaborations, but I keep meaning to. I'll add that one to the TBR wing of my house. :)

Misconception and hurt go hand in hand, don't they? LOL Almost a chicken and the egg thing, too. And it's not always miscommunication, which does cause a lot of troubles. It's definitely preconceived ideas of how things SHOULD be, based on past experience.

It's a wonder any couples ever make it. LOL


Yeah, it's all about our filters...and those are certainly developed from our past experiences.

Even after 30+ years of marriage, I still misinterpret things my husband says and does. But with my investement, we back up and figure it out instead of letting it destroy us. Or just give us a bad day!

Donna Cummings

Filters make things interesting, since each person in a conversation, or relationship, has them. LOL I like that you "back up and figure it out", which is why you've got 30+ years of marriage. :) Other folks might dig in their heels and forget what's important.

Clarissa Southwick

How did you know the internet hates me? :) I do like a misinterpretation plot when it's well done. Thanks for yet another great post :)

Donna Cummings

Clarissa, nooo -- the internet can't hate you! You're too nice! (I'm sure you totally misinterpreted the internet's intentions. LOL)

julie gardner

I like the misinterpretation in "Snow Flower and the Secret Fan" - in which it is a mis-TRANSLATION (of a secret language with nuance) that tears apart a lifelong friendship.

Although the two friends don't discover the mistake until it's almost too late, I love the conflict (both literal and emotional) that it creates.

Donna Cummings

Julie, that sounds like a wonderful example, with very powerful conflict. How have I not read that yet? :) Thank you for sending that one my way.

Kari Marie

I love a good misinterpretation, but I'm with you on dragging it out too long. This happens to me IRL all the time so it rings true for fiction too.

Donna Cummings

Kari Marie -- LOL about the real life misinterpretations going on too long. I know what you mean. Sometimes that's the down side of being a writer. I can imagine all the horrible interpretations of events so easily!

Liz Fichera

I could use a decoder ring in real life!

I like to read believable misrepresentations and conflicts. When you understand a character emotionally, then I think the misrepresentations make more sense.

Donna Cummings

Liz, I could use one too! I think that's why I love when somebody misinterprets another's words or actions -- because we constantly do it in real life. And it isn't done maliciously. We just make certain assumptions and then it goes downhill from there. LOL


This is a great point! I like the little misinterpretations, but a big silly one is never good!

Donna Cummings

Jenn, it's usually the smaller things that get misinterpreted, and then hackles rise, etc. Like online when somebody thinks somebody else meant THIS, when they meant THAT. LOL Wars can start over something small like that.

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