Fear is an amazing, powerful creature. Most days it is relatively easy to keep it tamed, or at least confined in a secure holding cell.
It can be frightening once it's unleashed, because it doesn't ever really want to go back into its cage. It comes out snarling and snapping, warning us of danger, yet causing perils of its own.
When fear is like this, it can paralyze us. It goes from an early warning system to an all-out assault on our brains and bodies and creative spirit.
It doesn't help that, as writers, we fuel the beast with our "what if" scenarios. We have an endless supply of them, each one more elaborate than the last one that detonates in our minds. We need this ability when we're creating new stories, but it can drag us very quickly to the dark side, derailing our best intentions.
Jean Sarauer has a post on the Write to Done blog titled "How to Write When You're Scared Spitless". She explains how writers have to learn to deal with their "page fright". One of the things she says about dealing with fear, so it won't hamper our creative flow, is:
"Fear is an instinctive, as well as a conditioned, response to the risk that’s part of living a creative life. When I remember that, I save my energy for writing instead of squandering it in an eternal wrestling match."
I think this is a great reminder, since we want to use our energy for those tasks that are more likely to produce results in this creative life we've chosen. Wrestling with fear doesn't build any muscles, or count as aerobic exercise.
Even worse, fear isn't just ONE animal. It's an entire animal kingdom, with species and sub-species that emerge and then evolve as soon as one is successfully exterminated. While you may overcome one fear, say, the fear of failure, then up pops another one, maybe fear of rejection, to take the place of its fallen comrade.
So do you keep wrangling with the endless supply of these monsters until you finally cry truce?
Or do you acknowledge their presence, then sit your butt in your chair and get to work, ignoring their taunts?
Everyone struggles with fear. But maybe it's time to make fear struggle with us.
Don't engage with it. Don't let it get a toehold. Keep working on that manuscript, even when fear whispers how it's the worst combination of words ever devised, or that it'll never sell, or the publishing industry will implode before you get a book deal. Acknowledge these threats to your emotional psyche and move on.
If we don't respond, fear will search out another fright tactic, because it will never run out of potential boogeymen with which to terrorize us. The best thing to do is turn that energy source towards our creative endeavors, completely subverting fear's original purpose. Let fear's warnings inspire us instead of incite us. Put it to work, in a way it never intended when it launched its campaign of dread.
Pretty soon fear will be running scared of us.
I thought others might benefit from this post I did a while ago. It was a good reminder for me--hope it is for you too.
Wow, do I know fear! Fear is a pack of wild dogs, you can run from them or run with them. Because way back in our primitive self, fear meant you froze when the sabertooth stalked by...hoping he didn't see you. Listen to fear, but be selective. Sometimes its a sabertooth out there, sometimes its not.
Yeah, fear. Hey, it's fight, flight or freeze.
Posted by: Maureen O. Betita | June 24, 2011 at 02:15 AM
"An entire animal kingdom"--so true, and all the animals have lizard tails. Thanks, Donna. This is such timely advice for me.
Posted by: Janga | June 24, 2011 at 07:51 AM
Maureen, you're right about fear running in packs. LOL And I'd say most of the time fear makes us think we're facing a sabertooth, and it does make us freeze. That's when we have to use our creative imaginations for good -- to scare off the fear so we can move forward again!
Posted by: Donna Cummings | June 24, 2011 at 08:24 AM
Janga, love the lizard tails! It makes me think of a sci fi program where they're human-ish on the outside, but not on the inside--no wonder we're afraid, and suspicious. LOL
I'm glad it was timely. I hope it helps fight off the beasts today. :)
Posted by: Donna Cummings | June 24, 2011 at 08:25 AM
This post is always timely for me since I've been dealing with this from day 1 and it's never really gone away!
I'm doing much better but since this is my first book - which apparently the whole publishing world believes will never/should never see the light of day - it makes me fearful of evening continuing to write it. But, I have to get this one done so I can work on a supposedly "real" one. :(
Posted by: Sabrina | June 24, 2011 at 10:27 AM
Sabrina, you can't listen to the naysayers! There are plenty of people who sell their first book, the first time out. So don't fall prey to the fear monsters. They're doing everything they can to halt you in your tracks!
Thank them for their contribution and go back to writing. Every book you write is a "real" one, and I'm looking forward to reading it. :)
Posted by: Donna Cummings | June 24, 2011 at 10:46 AM
Great post, Donna. I have a note on my computer right now that says, "focus on process, not outcome" -- reminding me to concentrate on the writing, and not fret whether it's good until after the words are on the page!
Posted by: Leigh Michaels | June 24, 2011 at 11:24 AM
I think it was Roosevelt who said, "We have nothing to fear but fear itself." But fear is crippling, and it comes in so many forms. We all grapple with it, one way or another. It hits writer hard because this is an uncertain business.
This is an example that applies to writers. My daugher is on the All Star softball team but she's very new at softball. They were just short a player. :) But she's afraid to bat, even though she can do it. She keeps standing there waiting for the perfect pitch. Finally, the coach told her, "If you don't strike, you're guaranteed not to hit that ball. You have to try." We have to do the same as writers. Forget the fears building into a monster behind us. If we don't try, we're GUARANTEED not to get published.
Posted by: anita clenney | June 24, 2011 at 11:27 AM
Leigh, that's a great reminder! It's too easy to get bogged down in the "is it good enough?" fear, and it will suck you right down. I will use these words as guidance today too. Thanks for sharing them!
Posted by: Donna Cummings | June 24, 2011 at 11:36 AM
Anita, you're so right about the uncertainty being the source of so many of our fears. And I love the softball coach's advice--that really does apply to writers. Thank God for the delete key. LOL If we swing and miss, we can always erase and start over with something else. :)
Posted by: Donna Cummings | June 24, 2011 at 11:37 AM
Another wonderful post, Donna! I have found that when we doubt ourselves, we can always find people to agree with us! So we have to acknowledge the fear and push past it. Be proud of the 'effort' if not the end product - because we are always learning to write 'better.' Thanks for sharing!
Posted by: Tracy Brogan | June 24, 2011 at 01:56 PM
Thanks, Tracy -- I think you guys have been adding such great advice in the comments! You're right about finding people who will agree with our doubts. :( Acknowledging the fear and moving past it really is the best way to do it. Running works too. LOL
Posted by: Donna Cummings | June 24, 2011 at 02:20 PM
Great blog and lots of great comments. Love the softball one. That is so right and I relate since I grew up playing softball. It's always better to go down swinging. :)
The fear has subsided a bit for me these days, but it's early yet. I've just hit my stride feeling like I might know what I'm going. Then again, if I'm at this same point in five years, that fear will be back with a vengeance, I'm sure of it.
Posted by: Terri Osburn | June 24, 2011 at 03:18 PM
Terri, lots of great advice here today! The fear ebbs and flows, which is why it's tricky to think we've completely vanquished it. It just finds another area to worm its way into. LOL The important thing is to keep working, keep writing, keep improving. It means we'll have lots of stories to brandish in the face of our fears when they try to return!
Posted by: Donna Cummings | June 24, 2011 at 03:34 PM